Fear is present in everyone’s life and affects their daily activities and decisions.
And it happens whether you believe it or not. Most people are still in the in-between stage, so to speak, and think, usually erroneously, that someone is afraid of something, but not me.
Well maybe just a little bit, only sometimes, and not for very long at all. The situation is made worse by the fact that many people are in the dark about what fear really is.
And if your earnings on the Internet in affiliate programs, CPA networks and traffic arbitrage does not bring the desired result at the moment, it may be worth looking into your fears. And then realize that it is nothing more than a program, let it all go and relax.
How to get rid of fears if you make money online
And I hope very much that I can help you understand, and at least partially dispel a few common misconceptions about fear.
1. I’m not afraid of anything.
There is a huge mass of people who are afraid of this delusion. And in my opinion this happens for two reasons. First, people don’t want to look bad. After all, to be a “grey cowardly bunny” in their opinion is somehow unworthy, and the EGO will not allow this. Secondly, if the ego is okay, then many people just never think about it, and just mistakenly believe that this topic does not concern them.
2. Fear is too strong.
If you think this way, it really is. This is your truth, your reality, and by the immutable law of the universe, you get what you believe in.
3. There’s nothing you can do about it.
This belief flows smoothly from the previous one – if fear is strong, then you are weak. And if so, why even try to change something. We are reasonable people, after all, and we will never do senseless things.
4. Fourthly, it only brings suffering.
No one is going to argue that this is a negative emotion. But let’s also remember that any emotion affects us, but only we ourselves can decide how it will affect us. And it is the negative emotion that, under certain circumstances, brings us invaluable benefit.
5. It must be defeated.
My dears, if you really think so, you are in for a deep disappointment. Feelings, like everything else, are given to us from above, as necessary from the creator. And everything he has given us has a right to exist.
6. There are people who are not afraid of anything.
Only complete idiots are not afraid of anything. But they do not live long. It is peculiar to any normal person without mental or physical deviations to be afraid. Another thing is that they learned how to overcome their fear and keep it under control.
7. It is a shame to admit one’s fear.
We already talked about this at the very beginning. But it is so important that I will repeat it again. When we close our eyes to a problem, it doesn’t go away. All we achieve is to deprive ourselves of the chance to solve it.
If we don’t see or don’t want to see our difficulties, we won’t even try to solve them, and that’s obvious. And you can easily guess for yourself what the result will be.
Whether you need the fear or not
Anxiety is a biological response necessary for survival. All mammals, including humans, have it. It can be triggered by a real threat as well as by an imaginary one. It mobilizes five body systems: emotional, motivational, autonomic, muscular and endocrine.
If you are in a state of anxiety and have determined its cause, take some time and, being honest with yourself, write down the answers (sometimes there will be several) to the following questions:
Determine what is important yet useful about the anxiety, what are the positive intentions of your unconscious? Perhaps this is a way of alerting you in time to the need for good preparation before you begin any change? Then the degree of manifestation of anxiety would be an indicator of inner readiness.
Think about the opposite cases, situations in which this reason brought about positive things, and find a new meaning for the cause of your anxiety. For example, blunders and mistakes are companions of experience.
Find your own “control lever” for anxiety and determine your threshold for sensitivity. What affects your emotionality most in a given situation that will reduce the intensity of your anxiety? Find your individual criteria. Develop several options for managing the intensity of your state.
Find the positive outcomes and effects of overcoming anxiety. What specifically positive things will happen when you cope with your anxiety? How will this experience affect your personality? What more will you gain?
Strengthen your self-esteem by imagining who you will be in the eyes of others, in your own eyes, when you make the change? What would you call that role?
If you begin to manage your anxiety in this way, will everything be eco-friendly and appropriate, won’t it make something else in your life worse? If not, think about steps that would be good to take to address possible negative consequences.
Make a clear plan for implementing change.
How to identify your fear
Signs of unproductive anxiety:
- You worry because of unanswered questions.
2. You worry because of a chain reaction of events.
3. You dismiss decisions because they are not perfect.
4. You think you have to worry until you feel less anxious.
5. You think you have to worry until you are in control.
Signs of productive worry:
You have a question for which there is potentially an answer.
- You are focused on a specific event rather than a chain of consequences.
2. You are willing to make non-ideal decisions.
3. You don’t use your anxiety as a guide to action.
4. You recognize that there are things you can control and things you can’t.
A few tips to help your body take care of your neurons and the rest of your body
- Being out in nature for at least 20 minutes lowers cortisol levels. Go to nature. In Britain, they even prescribe bird watching as a therapeutic treatment for hypertension, heart disease and “stress.”
- Loved ones help us get through difficult moments – our bodies respond differently to stress or difficult tasks if we feel supported.
- Know how to recognize the symptoms of burnout so you don’t get stressed out.
- Keep a daily routine, try to go to bed and get up at a time that is more or less comfortable for you.
- Exercise or dance. Long distance running or even walking causes the brain to secrete nerve growth factor (brain-derived neurotrophic factor). It helps neurons and the retina to survive.
- Older people are better off dancing than running when it comes to brain health.
- Clean or work in the garden. Hate cleaning can come in handy when it comes to coping with a stressful situation. While we’re cleaning, we should be thinking about the work itself, how things are getting organized and getting better. So we distract ourselves and do something constructive.
- Eat right. “Properly” means that you eat simple predominantly plant-based foods, don’t overeat or binge on stress, and your diet includes plant and animal proteins and fats, complex carbohydrates, and enough fluids.
Drinking alcohol to reduce stress, on the other hand, is not an option. In a study that lasted more than 30 years, it was found that hippocampal shrinkage and memory impairment were seen primarily in people who chronically drank alcohol.
Those who drank four or more doses of alcohol daily impaired their memory six times more than those who did not drink at all. People who consumed alcohol, but in moderation, had three times the risk compared to teetotalers.
Here’s how stress and brain deterioration are related. Are you feeling unwell? You begin to abuse alcohol, smoke more, sleep less, perhaps also undernourish or lose friends, shut down. This is what kills neurons, not “stress” per se. Remember this when life strikes again. You can withstand it if you take care of your health and maintain an active social life.
Take care of yourself and remember that stress can actually make us stronger and tougher, not kill us.